The Necessity of Eternal Security

Recently I have been dealing with the shock of hearing that several pastors on the mountain where I live do not believe in eternal security.  I have had to struggle with the idea that I have always held but never proved to myself, that this doctrine is an essential part of the gospel message, and without believing it you do not have salvation.  I would like to share my research with you so you can know and understand that what I found was that this idea I have long held is Biblical and true.

We understand that salvation is by faith in the message authoritatively preached by God’s true messengers. (Gal 3:1-6)  Note the last line of that passage, “…just as Abraham ‘believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness’?”  Therefore salvation is based on believing God (or put another way, trusting His promises), and doing that alone with no works added for salvation. (Rom 3:28; Eph 2:8-9, etc.)  Well, what did Jesus promise?

As we look at the most commonly cited salvation verse (John 3:14-16) we see He promised ‘Eternal Life.’

 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, that whoever believes in him may have eternal life. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. (Jn 3:14-16, ESV)

So here, we have two mentions of eternal life, the first a promise that whoever believes in the Son of Man, who was lifted up, will have eternal life and the second a purpose clause explaining the reasoning behind the previous verse.  In both cases, the term ‘Eternal Life’ (ζωὴν αἰώνιον) is the direct object of a subjunctive verb.  Since this is not an equative clause, or a clause that declares things are equal, the adjective is not likely to be a predicate one, but rather an attributive adjective,[1] making eternality  an attribute of the life gained by the one with faith.  Just as one grammar text says of this sort of adjective, “Attributive structure in Greek involves the direct attribution of qualities or characteristics to a substantive.[2]

Since this is the case, then Jesus is asserting that the life you gain by faith has the quality or characteristic of being αἰώνιον, or stated another way, a life that has the quality of being “…of unending duration, without end….”[3]  If this is the quality promised, and salvation is based on believing God’s promise, then failing to believe it is eternal is failing to believe the gospel message.  Eternal life is the promise, and if it is not eternal, you have not believed the promise of salvation.

Now all of this ignores all the other positive verbiage in the New Testament about eternality, because this is the heart of the matter.[4]  As for those verses that might be read to say you can lose your eternal life, well all other passages must be interpreted through this lens as Scripture can and must never be used to contradict itself.  The promise of salvation is for a life with the attribute of being eternal; if you have believed that promise, your life will be such and you will not face the second death.  Such a view is the most basic tenet of Biblical interpretation.

Therefore, we see that the promise of security is built into what we must believe to be saved by Jesus Himself and the words He chose to use.  We must be clear that life without end is what you get by faith; that is the promise we believe.  If it is without end, it cannot be lost.  This is not some doctrine added to Scripture, but instead something that comes from the very mouth of Jesus.  The grammar Jesus chose to use says that any interpretation that claims eternal security is false is simply calling Jesus a liar.

This being the case, I encourage all of you, find out what your pastor teaches; even if you think you know, ask!  I was shocked when two pastors I knew said they did not believe it…  If I can be shocked, so can you.  Please ask, and do not let them give a smoke screen.  Directly ask if they believe that there is no way we can lose our salvation once we have faith.   Both of the pastors I spoke to tried to dodge the discussion and hide their belief; they had to be directly asked what they believed before they revealed it.  Please check, even if you think you know.  My brothers and sisters, this is a gospel issue.

[1] Daniel B. Wallace, Greek Grammar Beyond the Basics – Exegetical Syntax of the New Testament (Zondervan Publishing House and Galaxie Software, 1999), 311.  More than the likelihood of thios interpretation, this phrase is the idea that this is the result of some other action, and so it is a package and not something that can be divided.

[2] Stanley E. Porter, Idioms of the Greek New Testament (Sheffield: JSOT, 1999), 116.

[3] William Arndt, Frederick W. Danker, and Walter Bauer, A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament and Other Early Christian Literature (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2000), 33.

[4] The other verbiage includes direct and clear statements that agree with this position, such as Rom 8:31-39, which includes this favored portion of Scripture…  “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Rom 8:38-39, ESV)


Where We See How to Allow Fallen Human Tradition to Over-Rule Scripture…

Sola Scriptura

I have been following a debate between James White and Brian Brodersen concerning the real meaning of 1 John 5:1a.  James White contends that Pastor Brodersen did not take into account the Greek behind the English translation of this verse (1 Jn 5:1a) when he answered a caller’s question on the Pastor’s Perspective radio show.  Now I know you probably do not want to read a bunch of Greek stuff, but I promise you that if you follow it you may have a very changed view of what an accurate preacher must pay attention to in his studies…

The initial charge is here at about 7:31, although to get the full context of the charge please listen to the whole thing.

The issue between Dr. White and Brodersen is about the correct translation of the text in the original of 1 John 5:1a.  The text in question is,

Πᾶς ὁ πιστεύων ὅτι Ἰησοῦς ἐστιν ὁ χριστός, ἐκ τοῦ θεοῦ γεγέννηται… (1 Jn 5:1a, NA27)

My own literal translation of this text is:

‘Each the one ‘having faith’ that Jesus is being the Christ, from out of the God he has already been born…’

The first issue is my wording ‘having faith,’ this is essentially the same as Dr. White’s.  Yes, the word we both translated as ‘having faith’ is a participle, or verbal adjective; but in Greek participles can, and often do, stand in for the main verb of the sentence.  As noted grammarian Daniel Wallace has said, “…the participle can be used as a noun, adjective, adverb, or verb (and in any mood!)”[1]  In this sentence, it is clear that the ‘having faith’ is the verbal action of the sentence; therefore, that participle is standing in as the finite verb (main verb.)  When that happens, the tense of the participle takes on a completely different flavour…  What was once something utterly dependent on previous verbs now becomes something that influences later verbs.  In this sentence, though it hardly matters, since the previous verbs are all clearly present test, as is πιστεύων.  Therefore, from the context (technically John is speaking about something that happens all the time (gnomic present)), we have something that shows itself in the present time; someone is now having faith that Jesus is (currently) being the Christ is some who has already been born from out of God.  This would reflect the normal use of the perfect tense verb γεγέννηται, or ‘He has (in the past) been born of out of….’  This is pretty clearly a statement that regeneration precedes faith.  However, Brodersen disagrees…  His response is here:

Interestingly Brodersen tries to claim the context of 1 John changes the meaning of these words.  However, he does have to go to someone else (Dr. Joe Holden)[2] for the Greek translation.  Doctor Holden agrees with him, but in the process makes some critical errors in his own approach.  He claims we are reading the text with our theological system rather than reading the text neutrally; but while trying to show this he really shows that this is exactly what he is doing.  He claims that this verse has nothing to do with initial salvation by going to 1 John 4:7, nearly a chapter previous.  However, when he tries to exegete this passage we find it has exactly the same Greek construction.  Most interpreters would take this to show that John has a habit of using participles as finite verbs (because he does have such a habit in this epistle.)  Instead, Holden tries to change the meaning of this verse to match the tradition he wants to uphold.

Yes, there is a strong idea in 1 John of showing your faith as both Holden and Brodersen contend, but in both 4:7 and 5:1 John is trying to tell us why this must be so.  He is saying that since we were regenerated to have faith, we will be different; we are now different people and no longer the sin-minded people we were naturally born to be.  That is one of John’s main arguments, and one confirmed by his description of Jesus’ word in the gospel of John 6:44.  This is the place where John quotes Jesus as saying, “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him. And I will raise him up on the last day.”  We are ‘Drawn’ (ἑλκύσῃ – He led us away through force as an act of His choice) by God making us different people rather than the fallen and depraved wretches we once were.[3] These are directly linked ideas in 1 John, and something that must never be manipulated by substituting tradition for exegesis the text (the tradition is that of Calvary Chapel, also called Arminianism)

As John precedes his discussion of how regeneration changes more than just our ability to have faith, he eventually comes to chapter 4, verse 17.  Here John begins discussing the fact that we can have confidence on the Day of Judgment, because Jesus was in this world as we are now.  He came here and went back to the Father; the world could not truly kill Him even though it tried.  Then in verse 18 John continues this exploration of the fear we might have by explaining that perfect love casts out fear.  As we are being perfected (a clear reference to ongoing sanctification coming out of salvation) we will no longer fear judgment.  Then in verse 19 John says, “We love because he first loved us.”  This is clearly taking the topic back to our regeneration for salvation; and how the very process of our salvation ensures that we will act differently.  Then he shows with a specific example how, since we are now very clearly different, we must by necessity act differently; we love our brother if the regeneration we have was real.

Then in chapter 5 John again begins to show why we must be different (exactly as he did in 4:7); we were regenerated in order to have faith, so it follows that if we are different, we will act differently, because in Christianity the renewed mind always leads a different life.  None of this changes anything in the interpretation of this passage by Dr. White or myself, in fact it strengthens it.  Nevertheless, it is interesting that we see here the traditions of the Calvary Chapel form of Arminianism so heavily influenced them that they are left unable to exegete a clear passage of Scripture.  This is something that we must seriously take into account by honestly asking ourselves, “Is my pastor able to exegete a passage without his tradition so clouding the meaning that when the Bible clearly says something, he still allows for it to say what his tradition demands?”  Yes, we all have blinders on about specific issues. However, this is an extremely clear verse; one that completely refutes any claim that faith precedes regeneration.  The text teaches exactly the opposite.  If you are someone who claims to teach believers and you only read English (and use the NIV as Brodersen seems to as he keeps quoting it), you might be stuck with your traditions…  Is that the kind of teacher Christ wants for His church?  Or would Jesus want someone who can and does look past his own traditions and toward the text of Scripture?

[1] Daniel B. Wallace, Greek Grammar Beyond the Basics – Exegetical Syntax of the New Testament (Zondervan Publishing House and Galaxie Software, 1999), 613.

[2] Doctor Holden is the President of Veritas Evangelical Seminary and a one-time student of Dr. Norman Geisler, who currently is Chancellor of Veritas.  In fact, Dr, Giesler was his advisor for his MA Thesis titled An Examination and Evaluation of the Jesus Seminar View of the Gospel, Sayings of Jesus Christ.  Doctor Geisler is also a noted Arminian, so would find full agreement with the Calvary Chapel tradition.  Geisler is the author of the book Chosen But Free: A Balanced View of God’s Sovereignty and Free Will, currently in its 3rd Edition (as of 12/15/2014)

[3] There is much more to God’s ‘Draw’ or ‘Call’ than we are able to go into in this post.

Fear and Trying to Study Scripture


Last time I wrote about Rick Warren’s attempt to make peace with the world, and in doing so how he ignored a great deal of Scripture.  This led me to ask, ‘Instead of only complaining, how can I help believers not do this?’  Well, the only real help I can offer is to tell people to study the Scriptures daily.  But does saying ‘study this’ really help?  Do people know how to do this in a way that is pleasing to God?  I must say that for the church generally, this is not the case; people do not automatically know how to study the Scriptures in the way that will help them see what God is saying to them.  You see, God’s words were not written directly to us; they had a different intended audience.  More, the Scriptures were written 2000 or more years ago in three languages (Hebrew, Aramaic and Greek) that we do not speak.  They addressed cultures that were very different from ours, with expectations we have never heard of, let alone make for ourselves.  Further, Scripture itself tells us that we are unable in ourselves to understand what is written, (1 Cor 2:14) and so, must rely on supernatural aid to actually understand the words written for our benefit. (1 Cor 2:12-13)

This makes it sound almost impossible, and something that most people will simply be unable to do!  Who wants to learn THREE Languages, study thousands of years of culture and turn into a spirit because “…he is not able to understand them [the Scriptures] because they are spiritually discerned?” (1 Cor 2:14c, ESV)  However, this is a great over-reaction, but it seems to be the one Pastor Warren made when he made his comments.  He chose not to study the topic because he thought he knew the answer.  In this, we see the first thing we must avoid, and that thing is fear.  When we stand before the Scriptures far too often people make the error of fear, and this fear always leads to arrogance.

The first form of fear is that Scripture will be too complicated for us to understand, and so we become arrogant in our ignorance and think that we must already know enough.  This results in asking questions like: ‘God would never make such hard material necessary, would He?’ Or, ‘Why would God require so much work in study for something that is a free gift?’  Both of these questions betray a fear of having to do work in study.  That fear leads directly to an arrogance of the knowledge we do have, so in the end we end up thinking that we really do not need to study because that is just for eggheads, nerds and other forms of pastoral life.

The second error is the fear of thinking something you believed in the past was wrong, and that could never be, because after all, I have been a Christian for (insert however long) and learned it already from (insert from whom you learned it.)

Both of these fears (the fears that we are wasting time because we already know enough and fear of being wrong) lead to a massive block in our ability to understand God’s truth.  This block is present because we have already decided that we do not want to know it because we are afraid of work or afraid of being wrong.  This is one of the things the First Corinthians passage was talking about; both are examples of trying to understand with the wrong spirit.  You are trying to understand through a prism of sin instead of through the Holy Spirit’s gift of illumination.

Therefore, the very first principle of studying Scripture must be coming to the work knowing you need to know.  Either through more work or knowing that you might have been wrong and therefore need correction; but, regardless of reason, you need to know.  This is very hard to do, but as believers, we must all have this exact form humility if we have any chance of understanding Scripture.  After all, God certainly knows more than we do, and any place where we disagree with Him we are wrong.  We must do more than just say this; we must repent of our wrong attitudes and live as though we believe it.  Therefore, we must approach the Bible first with humility, asking the Lord to cause us to learn His truth through our humble personal study.  We must also be willing to set aside our fleshly beliefs (such as it is too much work, or that we already know), and fully examine the Scripture to find the truth; all the while remembering that the truth is not native to us, and comes only as a gift from God.

We will look at further principles in future entries, but for now be humble before your God and admit you do not know it all and must learn from the Great Teacher!

Rick Warren’s Peace with the World

Rick Warren, Kevin William Vann
In this video,  Rick Warren points out an assortment of agreements Romanism has with Biblical Christianity; and he is correct.  On those issues, they do agree.  However, there is one issue where they do not agree, and that is the gospel.  They say something close, but alas, when discussing salvation, close is not enough.  They do believe in justification by faith (and always have), but they do not believe in justification by faith alone.  Paul tells us Romans 4:4-5 that “…the one who works, his wages are not counted as a gift but as his due. And to the one who does not work but believes in him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is counted as righteousness…” (Emphasis mine)  Romanism adds to faith the need to do works in order to earn salvation (things like Baptism, communion and other things.)  These things are required for salvation in the Romanist system…  Baptism is required for salvation (Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) 1257); participation in other Sacraments are also required for salvation (things like the Mass or Confirmation – CCC 1129) and more, good works themselves (specifically keeping the Ten Commandments) are also said to be necessary (CCC 2068).  The full process of Romanist Salvation can be found here: Summary of Process of Salvation in Roman Catholicism.

If they believe all those things are necessary, they are denying the gospel Paul preached and declared to be without works in Romans 4.  Since this is the case, this group is preaching a gospel different from the one we received and Galatians 1:9 tells us clearly what to do with such teachers.  This verse is not for the deceived people in that organization, but for those who teach the heresy, they are to be anathematized.    So the question must be asked, why is Rick Warren so desirous of reversing this clear Biblical teaching?  One must wonder where Pastor Warren’s commitments are; to secular peace, or with Christ who said that He did not come to bring peace, but a sword? (cf.- Matthew 10:34)  I would pray they were with the latter, but it seems that they are with the peace with the world; and therefore we must remind Pastor Warren that peace with the world is enmity with God.  (James 4:4)  Pastor Warren, please remember the warning of the Holy Scripture that is to direct our lives,

But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach to you a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again: If anyone is preaching to you a gospel contrary to the one you received, let him be accursed. (Galatians 1:9-9, ESV)

Kindergarten Shape Study Part 2: Kandinsky

Kindergarten Shape Study Kandinsky

I posted last week about our shape study we have been working through for math. I extended the lessons to art with a quick artist study of Wassily Kandinsky, especially his work “Color Study: Squares with Concentric Circles.”

We started the lesson by watching this video and talking about the various shapes and line widths he used.

Then we watched this video:

I fast forwarded and paused the video as we watched so we could talk about the paintings. This video was great because it showed the progression from more realistic works to the very abstract. We identified the objects and shapes in the realistic and abstract works.

After we watched (most) of the video, I showed the bigs a picture of Kandinsky’s work “Color Study: Squares with Concentric Circles.”


I had watched a lesson plan video earlier and decided, in keeping with my homeschooling on a dollar store budget, that we would use wet chalk instead of oil pastels. I folded a piece of black construction paper into quarters. This resulted in rectangles instead of squares, but you could easily trim a piece of paper down before you folded it.

We went outside for art because the littles woke from nap before we started and I didn’t want chalk all over the house. I kept a picture of Kandinsky’s work up on the laptop as a reference. I showed them how to wet their chalk before using it to achieve a deeper color.

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After we filled in two sections, I showed the boys how to blend colors to make new colors.

Judah's artwork

Judah’s artwork

Malachi's artwork

Malachi’s artwork

My artwork :)

My artwork 🙂

There were so many “lessons” in this simple activity: types of art, shapes, colors, color mixing, art mediums, textures, and on and on.

Kindergarten Shape Study: Part 1

shape study

I am not using a set curriculum for math this year. My plan is to use lots of hands on activities and then work through addition and subtraction using the cognitively guided instruction approach. I am excited about this approach as it is highly recommended by a long time elementary schoolteacher and teacher trainer. I will post more about that later in the year.

We are starting our kindergarten year with a unit on shapes. We will do two dimensional shapes first and then three dimensional right after or later in the year depending on where we are at the end of this study.

In keeping with my homeschooling on a dollar store budget I picked up some colorful flat wooden shapes on clearance at our local teacher store. There is a section where they have random sets of things that seem like pieces from games for super cheap. I have found some neat little manipulatives there and always make sure to check it out.

For kindergarten we will be doing math twice a week and last week we started by identifying basic shapes, counting sides and corners. They already knew circle, square, rectangle and triangle but the hexagon was new for them.

The first thing I did was have them sort the shapes. They did really well without any input from me.



After we had identified each shape and counted the shapes and corners, we played “find me a ___________.” They took turns finding the shape I called out and then each had a chance to call out a shape for the other to find.

Next up was the “shape detective” game. On their turn they chose shapes to put into a bag (I just used a paper lunch bag) and then I told them a shape to find. They had to find that shape using “clues” gathered by their fingers without looking and pull it out of the bag. We started with two shapes and moved up until we had one of each of the shapes in the bag. Again, they took turns telling the other what shape to find.

shape detective

shape detective

Today we continued the shape study by reviewing the shapes we talked about last week. I started the lesson out with the shapes colored side down. We matched shapes, talked about big and small, discussed how we knew the shapes were different (how is a square different than a rectangle and a circle different than a hexagon even though the shapes are very similar) and discovered that we could make a new shape by putting two shapes together.





After we talked about the shapes for a while, we played shape bingo. I took a plain piece of paper and folded it into 16 squares. They then filled their boards using the shapes and put a chip on each shape I called.




I won!

I won!

After a few rounds they each had a turn to be the “chooser” and I played one of the boards. The “chooser” had to call out the shape that he chose from the bag. They had a great time with this game and I have a feeling it will be requested again.

After math, we made shape collages for art. I made cutting strips on construction paper that they cut out and glued onto paper. Cutting the squares and rectangles was pretty easy and the triangles and half circles more difficult. It is quite difficult to cut a circle with scissors, so I decided to use half circles so it was challenging and used the same skills as cutting a full circle but not so difficult that they would become discouraged and frustrated.




They had lots of fun cutting and gluing and were so calm and quiet I decided to read the next chapter in our read aloud: The Mouse and the Motorcycle while they worked.





Judah’s finished picture:

judah shapes


Disclaimers: Yes, that is my dining room table full of dents, scratches, missing varnish and permanent marker stains. But it is solid and well built and will hopefully last 16 more years of homeschooling and I’m not afraid to mess it up. Also, yes, I know Malachi’s shirt is backwards AND inside out but he is participating so it’s a win. This is real life, my friends.

A Trip to the Heart {Rock}


heart rock
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5

I have posted a little before about our journey to where we are now as a family and our commitment to homeschooling our children even before we were married. There were many years it seemed we would never see the desires of our hearts, but the Lord knew His plan for us, and following Him has allowed us to homeschool our children. We are so blessed.

A recent hike with the bigs to a local landmark, Heart Rock, offered reflections on homeschooling and life.  Here is what I hope to keep in mind as we begin our trip to the heart.

wpid-0906140956b.jpgSome will choose the easy path, some will choose the challenging path.

wpid-0906141000.jpgSometimes the best way to get where you are going is to slide.

wpid-0906141003b.jpgThe lowest point often holds the opportunity for the most growth.

wpid-0906141006.jpgWe can choose different paths to get to the same place.

wpid-0906140958.jpgLook for guidance along the way and keep moving forward.

wpid-0906141010.jpgTake risks but remember you may need to backtrack to find the path again.

wpid-0906141046b.jpgBeauty can come in unexpected places and seemingly impossible situations.

wpid-0906141107a.jpgTake moments to just be and soak it all in.

wpid-0906141107.jpgEvery experience is a chance to learn.

wpid-0906141114.jpgThere is a time to help and a time to ask for help.

wpid-0906141200.jpgFlexibility is key.

wpid-0906141152e.jpgFind the small moments of joy along the way.

wpid-0906141040b.jpgDon’t take your eyes off the final destination.

I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth. 3 John 1:4, ESV

5 Solae Academy is Open: Our First Day

Before Cliff and I were even married, we knew that homeschooling was the right choice for our family for a variety of reasons. Fast forward 11-12 years and here we are.

Yesterday was the first day of school at 5 Solae Academy!


1st day of school signs

1st day of school signs

My plan was to have school during the Littles nap to prevent the chaos and destruction that comes with two year old twins, but the boys were so excited I decided to do part of my plan for the day in the morning.

First we sorted their new school supplies. I can still remember the smell of new school supplies and the excitement of a new school year that came along with it. I wanted to pass that memory on to my children so I picked up a few new things for them.

Judah sorts new supplies.

Judah sorts new supplies.


An unplanned lesson on magnets.

An unplanned lesson on magnets.


They each have their own pencil case with pencils, a white board marker, (both new), scissors (we already had),  a small pack of crayons and a short ruler (both free from the fire department at a recent community fair), a paper towel “eraser” for their whiteboards and a small letter line I made.


Malachi and his supplies

Malachi and his supplies


Judah and his supplies

They also got their own whiteboard and journal. The craft box (a wipe box) has new skinny markers, colored pencils, glue and a bigger box of crayons.


New supplies!


After we sorted our supplies, we prayed and recited the Pledge of Allegiance. Then we jumped into reading which Malachi is very excited about and ready for. I am using the book Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons  which is a phonics program. We learned the sounds “mmmmmm” and “ssssss.” Malachi said that  saying “mmmmmm” was making him  hungry so after the lesson we took a break for chips and salsa and my doctor’s appointment. While we were working on reading, the Littles were busy undoing all the work we had just finished despite Grandma’s best efforts to distract them.

After my doctor’s appointment, we did our first lesson on science. I am using Discovering God’s World (Abeka) for science. The first unit is “Discovering Myself” and we will be concentrating on the 5 senses. While I read the introduction of the unit, the boys colored pictures of themselves on the front covers of their journals, including brains and in Judah’s case other things 4 year old boys talk about (ahem).


Malachi draws himself


Judah draws himself

Judah draws himself

We ended the day making our 1st day of school signs. Judah wants to be a construction worker when he grows up and Malachi wants to be a pastor “to take my Dad’s place.”


1st day of school signs

1st day of school signs


We had a few hiccups along the way where Malachi got frustrated, but I found after a few sentences of encouragement, if I continued as planned he recovered and join us again. Shortly after we were finished, Malachi asked for more school work (yay!) so he practiced writing his name on his white board and did an alphabet puzzle with Grandpa.


Working a puzzle with Grandpa

Working a puzzle with Grandpa

Overall, it was a great first day at 5 Solae Academy.  We are looking forward to 16 more years.

If you homeschool, how was your first day?

Homeschooling & the Mommy Wars: What I Wish We Were Saying

One great thing about having a blog is when you have thoughts running around in your head at 1 am, you can dump them out on a “page” and then leave them there until the morning (well, later in the morning anyway). Then, hopefully, go back to sleep. Here are my 1 am musings.

Two things happened recently that prompted this post.

The first involves a conversation I had with a dear Christian friend. Her five year old was starting kindergarten at our local public school in a few weeks. I asked her how she was feeling about this. What I meant was “how are you, as a mother, feeling about your baby bird leaving the nest?” It became apparent during the conversation that what she heard was “why aren’t you homeschooling?” She shared her reasons for choosing public school and how others had questioned this choice. I was saddened that she felt she needed to defend her choice to me instead of finding a friend with an ear sympathetic to the bittersweet moments that are ever present in parenting.

The second is I joined a very large very active homeschool group on Facebook. The support this group offers is invaluable, yet  I am disheartened by some of the things I see there. There are several post everyday along the lines of “I am so glad my children don’t go to public school because….”  some of which make me cringe and hope they don’t share those thought outside of the private group. But even more disheartening are the posts (or comments more often) judging other’s methods of homeschooling as if there is a wrong or right way to homeschool.

What I wish we were all saying to each other is:

If you homeschool for religious reasons…I support you.

If your children attend public school for religious reasons…I support you.

If you homeschool for academic reasons…I support you.

If your children attend public school for academic reasons…I support you.

If your children sleep until 10 am and start “school” sometime between 11-12…I support you.

If you do the “get up before 6 am, get dressed, find your shoes, pack the lunch, pack the backpack, run for the bus” dance 5 mornings a week…I support you.

If you homeschool because it makes you a better parent….I support you.

If your children attend public school because it makes you a better parent…I support you.

If you spend $1,000 on curriculum for your homeschool…I support you.

If you homeschool using free resources and Pinterest…I support you.

If you homeschool in a designated classroom adorned in primary colors…I support you.

If you homeschool where ever is comfiest…I support you.

If you are an active, thoughtful partner in your child’s learning, however that looks for your family, I SUPPORT YOU.

Busy Bag: Odds and Ends Matching Games

Busy Bag Odd & Ends Matching Game   5 Solae Academy


1 week until we officially start homeschooling! I have a pretty good start on lesson plans and Malachi just asked me today if we could do reading called “reading” the first day we start school. I wasn’t planning on jumping right into phonics on the first day, but he is SO ready and willing how can I say no?

Two year old twins means I need lots of “stuff” to keep them busy while I teach the older kids. This week will be all about busy bags for the littles and independent activities for the bigs. All the activities must fit into my “dollar store budget” which means a lot of DIY and using things I already own.

Last week, I did a giant purge of the bigs’ bedroom which is basically a playroom. I sorted every toy into one of three piles: keep (the smallest), donate/sell (the largest) and trash. As I was sorting I kept out some small odds and ends that I could use for sorting and matching puzzles. These were mostly items that were originally part of larger games which were unusable because the other pieces were missing or broken.

After I was finished I had this box of items to work with:


I sorted them into groups of like items to make the matching games. I tried to make sure I would have easier games for the littles and harder games for Judah, my lover of puzzles (and the littles as they grow). I also broke out the new pad of white craft paper and brand new markers. One great thing about homeschooling is I get to use the new school supplies too.


 Several of the games I made two sided. On the games below, one side is self-correcting by color; the shapes were traced in the same color as the object. The other side is more difficult with all the shapes traced in black.

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The littles “helping”:


After 20 minutes or so of tracing, I  now have 8 games (3 pages are double sided) for my busy bag boxes.


What are your best homeschooling on a dollar store budget tips?